Generally speaking life can be challenging at times; the most frequent expectation is that you'll be mis-interpreted, mis-aligned, and mis-directed at times. Some say that's life; not necessarily for me though. People are the makers and breakers of their own life as Christ from the beginning stated that he "set life and death before you, choose!
Unfortunately we often choose death!
Today I had a very profound experience with a mother and her daughters; such delicate connections keeps me puzzled...I often wonder what it is like to be a mother specifically what its like to be fronted by those very experiences that you as a mother may have experienced or may grow up fearing when you have to face them or relive them out within your very own daughters. I took a very strong glimpse of such occurance today.
It made me reflect deeply and to listen attentively for over forty minutes without uttering a word....at first I felt saddened by the incidence only to be later awaken in the height of deep prayer...asking God for peace and forgiveness in the situation and protection from any form of anger or retaliation.
Taking up the task in my current office often feels simple and unimportant to me; many times and quite often nowadays I receive that visit or that call ...someone just needing someone else to listen to share their story. Those stories are heartbreaking some are disappointing others seemingly trivial. But over the years I have found that all these stories embodies a common theme...a single thread of women in search...women in need...women wanting to be cherished, understood, loved, respected, sometimes just left alone so that they can be.
Unfortunately we are bound in a masochist society; the search for answers for many women end up in the hands or ears or eyes of men. Men whose own stories are reflective of the pain they themselves emit with or give to other women...the world over. The challenge lies in our ability as men to overcome our own limitations and be useful in very practical and simple ways...as seeing as the eyes of the women themselves.
For me this experience meant much; having a broken family myself and recognizing my inability to have made the obvious decision fifteen years ago, I see my own contributions to the pain and suffering that many women experience today. It is rather telling that one cannot isolate his experience from his nature and often times by failing to understand our own nature as men we become harmful to ourselves and to the women around us.
Society has come up with many excuses that our male ego may employ to justify past, current and future actions; but my experience today has taught me that there are no excuse possible to justify any act we as men may take whether deliberately or indirectly that renders a woman lifeless. On the other hand I observe the repeat patterns of pain drawn most times by women themselves; as more and more noise between the sexes occur and there is that reluctance to share honestly without anyone reading into motives....it becomes more difficult to address important life issues until failures or mistakes become the modus operandi or the defining path that dictates male -female exchanges and interactions.
Despite it all I spent my afternoon praying and hoping that this bad experience of this beautiful young 15 year old and her mum and baby sister will strengthen their resolve to live...to allow GOD's grace to flow over the pain and to hover as a protective shield over their beings. I pray for the grace to always listen and pray and be not ready to divulge solutions or answers...yes Lord it is moments as these that draws..all men to you.
Let Peace and Love Reign!
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